Coaching for people who feel like outsiders

I've been interviewed for The Sanctuary podcast about autism and kink.

The Sanctuary Podcast Website: https://www.thisisthesanctuary.com/the-sanctuary-episode-176-john-pendal-online-coach-kink-educator/

YouTube: https://youtu.be/VxH2vZRdnfU

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/DcyprgWxeCx/

Also now live on Spotify, iTunes, Google, and other podcast services.

(Adult themes discussed)

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The Sanctuary Episode 176: John Pendal - Online Coach/ Kink Educator   Experienced B**M educator John Pendal joins us all the way from England, UK.   In 2003, John became the 25th person to win the annual International Mr Leather contest in Chicago. Since then he has travelled around the world leading workshops, giving speeches, hosting events and performing kinky stand-up comedy. Amongst others, John has taught B**M workshops at Beyond Leather in Fort Lauderdale; Darklands in Antwerp; Down an Dirty in Melbourne, Australia; HunCon in Budapest; Kinkferansen in Oslo; Kinkfest in London; Leather Camp in Wichita; Lupercalia in Canada; Minnesota Leather Pride; Mr Leatherman Toronto; Palm Springs Leather Pride; Rome B**M Conference; SINSations in Leather; SM Bergen, Norway; Spring in the South in Atlanta; Tribal Fire in Oklahoma; and for twelve consecutive years at Thunder in the Mountains in Denver. He spent lockdown completing a diploma in life coaching and two qualifications in First Aid for Mental Health. He now works online with English-speaking clients anywhere in the world, both directly and as an Associate Coach with “Thriving Autistic”.   Learn more @johnpendal.coach  @israeliekanem Resources:   Pink Therapy:https://pinktherapy.com/ My 3D Model of B**M:https://www.leatherlondonguide.com/model.html   PERSONAL WEBSITESCoaching website: https://www.johnpendal.com/Kink Coaching: http://www.leatherlondonguide.com/coach.htmlLeather Website: http://www.leatherlondonguide.com/ https://www.thisisthesanctuary.com/the-sanctuary-episode-176-john-pendal-online-coach-kink-educator/ https://youtu.be/VxH2vZRdnfU

𝐀𝐃𝐇𝐃 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐀𝐮𝐃𝐇𝐃 𝐑𝐞𝐬𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐜𝐞𝐬

Here are some resources that ADHD or AuDHD (both Autistic and ADHD) clients and practitioners have shared with me. This isn’t a complete list, it’s just a start. I’ll be adding to it as I hear more recommendations.

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𝐀𝐮𝐃𝐇𝐃 𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐀𝐃𝐇𝐃 𝐎𝐍𝐋𝐈𝐍𝐄 𝐀𝐑𝐓𝐈𝐂𝐋𝐄𝐒
Teo Byrne of NDWise Hub has written about "AuDHD as a synchronous symbiotic relationship" at https://ndwisehub.substack.com/p/audhd-as-a-synchronous-symbiotic

Jade Farrington has written an article “Is the AuDHD mind at war with itself? Replacing the narrative of conflict with a single monotropic neurology” at https://jadefarrington.substack.com/p/is-the-audhd-mind-at-war-with-itself

Dr Neff has a series of infographics about how ADHD overlaps with other conditions at https://neurodivergentinsights.com/adhd-infographics/

How Embracing the Chaos Helps My ADHD: https://www.verywellmind.com/how-embracing-chaos-helps-adhd-6822021

“Am I Going to Get Fired?” Self-Accommodations for ADHD Hazards at Work: https://www.additudemag.com/am-i-going-to-get-fired-adhd-hazards-at-work/

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𝐁𝐎𝐎𝐊𝐒
Unmasked: The Ultimate Guide to ADHD, Autism and Neurodivergence by Ellie Middleton, who is both Autistic and ADHD (AuDHD)

"An Autistic and ADHD Journey, re-writing a New Identity Post-Discovery" by Rachel Winder: https://livedplacespublishing.com/book/isbn/9781918026955

Extra Focus: The Quick Start Guide to Adult ADHD by Jesse J. Anderson

The Anti-Planner Book (How to Get Sh*t Done When You Don't Feel Like It) by Dani Donovan: https://anti-planner.com/

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𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐓𝐔𝐁𝐄
Autistic youtuber "Yo Samdy Sam" has a videos about being Autistic and ADHD: https://www.youtube.com/

Psychology professor Dr Inna is on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/ - including her watching and reacting to the Channel 4 documentary "The Great ADHD Myth"

TEDx talk on ADHD in Girls and Women: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ybk2IzwV6Zg

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𝐈𝐍𝐒𝐓𝐀𝐆𝐑𝐀𝐌
Sonny Jane Wise Instagram account - lots of affirming ADHD content: https://www.instagram.com/livedexperienceeducator/

https://www.instagram.com/adhdjesse/

https://www.instagram.com/neurodivergent_insights/

https://www.instagram.com/neuro_DiverS/

https://www.instagram.com/adhd_love_/

https://www.instagram.com/_dr_inna/

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𝐂𝐎𝐌𝐌𝐔𝐍𝐈𝐓𝐘 𝐆𝐑𝐎𝐔𝐏𝐒
ADHD Babes: A support group for Black women and Black non-binary people of African-Caribbean descent with ADHD. https://www.adhdbabes.com/ and https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/o/adhd-babes-31447883953

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𝐏𝐎𝐃𝐂𝐀𝐒𝐓𝐒
ADHD chatter podcast: https://www.instagram.com/adhd_chatter_podcast/
Including a 30 second Instagram video explaining ADHD overwhelm: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C5_EAFdM9s2/?igsh=MTZnNzM5eTEyNXQ0

Neurodivergent Moments Podcast by comedians Abigoliah Schamaun (ADHD) and Joe Wells (Autistic): https://shows.acast.com/neurodivergent-moments

Q***r! AuDHD! BIPOC! Podcast: https://www.rewilding.cc/qab and https://www.instagram.com/queeraudhdbipoc

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DUBBII APP – Body doubling videos to help you focus: https://www.dubbii.app/

INFLOW APP - claims to help you manage ADHD: https://www.getinflow.io/

SWEEPY APP - https://sweepy.app/ - turns household chores into a game

VARIOUS ADHD SUPPORT APPS by Neuro Motion: https://neuronotionn.gumroad.com/ e.g. Task Managers, Habit and Routine trackers, Journal and Mood logger.

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𝐇𝐎𝐑𝐌𝐎𝐍𝐄𝐒 𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐀𝐃𝐇𝐃
https://www.additudemag.com/women-hormones-and-adhd/

https://www.balance-menopause.com/menopause-library/menopause-and-adhd/

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𝐁𝐄𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐈𝐍 𝐀 𝐑𝐄𝐋𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐒𝐇𝐈𝐏
ADHD and Relationships: https://theautismservice.co.uk/learn/adhd-and-relationships/

Communication Tips for Neurodiverse Couples: https://adhdandautismclinic.co.uk/communication-tips-for-neurodiverse-couples/

Please let me know if you have any questions or suggestions you’d like to add.

Best wishes, John

𝐎𝐧𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐜𝐥𝐚𝐬𝐬: "𝐀𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐬𝐦 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐊𝐢𝐧𝐤" 𝐒𝐮𝐧 𝟏𝟑 𝐒𝐞𝐩𝐭

I'm going to be presenting my most popular workshop: "Autism and Kink", online with Wicked Grounds on Sunday 13th September from 11am-1pm PDT/ 2pm-4pm EDT/ 7pm-9pm Ireland & UK time.

Although it's most centred around autism, we will be including a few other forms of neurodivergence like ADHD, AuDHD and Alexithymia (not being able to name your feelings.)

The class covers:

- What is the difference between autism and neurodivergence?
- What's the right language to use?
- What are some of the differences between autistic and neurotypical communication?
- Why are kink environments so attractive to autistic folk?
- Why are Munches so difficult, and what can we do to improve the experience?
- How can we adapt kink play for neurodivergent play partners?
- Why might autistic people be more likely to stay in a relationship that's not a good fit?

There's a handout available that you can use to read along or download for later.

Tickets on a sliding scale from https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/e11af4f11b

Please let me know if you have any questions x