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I’m always ready for tough conversations, especially with teenagers.I mentor teens, so long before mine became teenagers...
28/09/2026

I’m always ready for tough conversations, especially with teenagers.

I mentor teens, so long before mine became teenagers, I was already immersed in their world. Still, nothing quite prepares you for the way their emotions, logic, and humour can shift from one minute to the next.

One thing I’ve learnt is that if you're an adult who isn't grounded, and you haven't mastered the art of protecting your energy instead of absorbing theirs, you’ll burn out very quickly.

Yesterday, I had one of those conversations.

Davian: Mummy, I used to trust you.

Me: That sounds like it's in the past. When did I lose your trust?

Him: When I was like one year old.

Me: Bruh! So at what point did you trust me if I lost your trust when you were one?

Him: When I was scrolling through your phone and I saw my baby pictures.

Me: I don't understand.

Him: Why was I so chubby? Didn't you know I would want to be fit and become an athlete? Why didn't you support my dreams early?

At this point, I started mentally reviewing every meal this child has eaten over the years, just to make sure I hadn't accidentally fed him something capable of rewiring his brain. Because what kind of conversation is this?

Me: Okay then, what should I have done better in that situation?

Him: Feed me less.

Me: Fair enough. I take the correction. It won't happen again next time.

Him: Next time???😁😁😁 That's rigged, Bruh! I was just rage baiting. Take a joke. It's so hard talking to older people. You all never understand young people's jokes.

Listen.

The emotional maturity it takes not to react, not to defend yourself, and not to start questioning every parenting decision you've ever made deserves an award.

Parenting teenagers is a daily combination of therapy session, stand-up comedy, debate club, and survival training. Some days you're helping them navigate real life issues. Other days you're being held accountable for baby fat they had over a decade ago.

The key is staying grounded enough to laugh, listen, and remember that not every conversation requires a serious response.

Sometimes, they're not looking for answers.
They're just testing the microphone. 🎤😂

Dr Christiana Stephen

One of the things adulthood teaches you is that love is a decision. For me to truly know you love me, your actions must ...
28/09/2026

One of the things adulthood teaches you is that love is a decision. For me to truly know you love me, your actions must do the talking. You don’t always have to tell me you love me; your actions can say it louder than words ever will.

Even an apology without evidence of change means very little. Real love is not just saying “I’m sorry”; it is making the effort to do better.

This month, I’ve been very intentional about teaching my children what loving me entails. I believe children should be taught what love is beyond the butterflies in our bellies and the emotions we often associate with it.

So, what is love?

Truthfully, my children are never going to feel butterflies for me 😁. So how will they know they love me? How will I know they love me?

I gave them a simple definition:
“If you love me, obey my rules.”

It immediately reminded me of John 14:21: “Whoever has my commands and keeps them is the one who loves me.”

Love, in many ways, is demonstrated through obedience, honour, and respect.

When they follow the rules, I don’t have to repeat myself. When I don’t have to repeat myself, I don’t get stressed. When I don’t get stressed, our home feels more peaceful. And that peace benefits everyone.

Of course, I’m not raising robots. I’m raising children who understand that love is not just a feeling you have; it is a choice you make and a responsibility you embrace.

Because the older I get, the more convinced I become that genuine love is seen in consideration, consistency, and action. The people who love you make your life lighter, not harder. They pay attention. They listen. They honour what matters to you.

Maybe that’s one of the greatest lessons about love: it is less about what we say and more about what we repeatedly do.

You can personalise this! In what ways do you show yourself you love you?

Selah!

Dr Christiana Stephen

28/09/2026

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Every weekend, my hubby sits the children down and reminds them of the things they must NEVER do to me, whether he’s aro...
27/09/2026

Every weekend, my hubby sits the children down and reminds them of the things they must NEVER do to me, whether he’s around or not.

Not that these children can actually do anything to me 😂, but this man takes the conversation very seriously.

“If you do this to my wife, you will face me head-on.”

What’s my own? If a man wants to protect his wife, who am I to stop him? 😂

Anyway, after he left for work, the kids and I were chatting.

Michelle: Mummy, why does Daddy think you’re fragile?

Me: Fragile?👀

Michelle: Yes! He’s always telling us not to stress you out. He says we must protect you even when he’s not here because we owe him that much, and that’s how we can repay him.

Davian: I don’t think Daddy knows you’re a military person. Even if there were 15 of each of us, we still couldn’t do anything to you. Daddy needs to watch you fight during taekwondo.

Your punch sends me flying! How does he think I’m going to mess with you?

Michelle: Exactly! That’s what I’m saying. I think Mummy starts acting like she can’t even lift her legs when Daddy is around.

Me: Excuse me? I don’t think I act. Maybe Daddy is just being protective. He’s also teaching you how to treat and protect the people who matter to you. Being strong does not mean you should not be cared for. You can be perfectly capable of defending yourself and still have someone who wants to protect you.

Davian: So basically… we are the villains.🦹😂

I nearly fell off my chair.

Him: So, daddy is making us protect the very person we run to for protection. He doesn’t know I’ll rather get into his trouble than your trouble.

Me: Well, it’s a two way street. We should look out for one another, not deliberately make life harder for each other. The lesson your dad is teaching you, is vital. He knows I’m strong and very capable at handling situations. He’s teaching you how to treat people who are precious to you regardless of how strong they are. Strong people need care too.

Him: hmmm… makes sense.

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Dr Christiana Stephen

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