Neuro-Stitch

Just a little ADHD Coach call-out for anyone who needs it today… 👀💛

You are NOT too busy to book that health appointment.
Or the dentist.
Or the eye test.
Or the haircut that makes you feel more like yourself.
Or whatever else you’ve been quietly putting off because everything else feels more important.

In my case - the Osteopath….

I know, I know…

“I’ll do it when work calms down.”
“I haven’t got time this week.”
“Other people need me.”
“It’s not that urgent.”

And then somehow three months have passed. 😂

For ADHDers, looking after ourselves can become another executive-function task: remember the thing, find the number, make the decision, actually book it, put it in the calendar, attend it…

Add people-pleasing, caring responsibilities, work, life admin and limited capacity, and our own needs can very quickly become the negotiable ones.

But you cannot continuously function with everyone else’s needs sitting above your own.

Self-care isn’t only spa days and switching your phone off.

Sometimes self-care is booking the bloody appointment you’ve been avoiding. (Especially those important, sometimes unpleasant health check ups!)

So consider this your reminder:

📱 Pick ONE thing you’ve been putting off.
📅 Book it.
✅ Done.

It doesn’t need to be a full life overhaul! Just one bit of messy action that tells Future You:

“Your needs matter too.” 💛

I think this is something we miss when we talk about ADHD.

We look at the thing we’re struggling with and immediately ask:

“Why can’t I do this?”

Why can’t I concentrate?
Why can’t I start?
Why am I suddenly overwhelmed?
Why has something I normally manage become impossible?

But ADHD doesn’t exist in a vacuum.

My executive functions are also trying to work with whatever else is happening in my life.

Work. Pain. Fatigue. Hormones. Relationships. Decisions. Sensory input. Life admin. Emotions. Uncertainty. The 47 tabs currently open in my head.

And sometimes the strategy that worked perfectly well last week suddenly doesn’t touch the sides.

That doesn’t necessarily mean the strategy failed.

Maybe my capacity changed.

That’s why I’m far more interested in asking “what’s going on here?” than “what’s wrong with me?”

🕵️ What changed?
🕵️ What am I carrying?
🕵️ What’s using my brain space?
🕵️ What does my brain need today?

Because ADHD is situational and needs context to help us know where to start figuring things out.

Sometimes getting unstuck starts with understanding the conditions your brain is trying to function in — rather than trying to force it to function harder.

Collect the clues. Connect the dots. Then find the right strategy for you. 💛

One of my ADHD coaching clients has completely overhauled how she manages her working day.

The groundbreaking piece of technology responsible?

A whiteboard. 😂

But here’s the thing… It’s not really about the whiteboard.

We found a tool that works with HER brain.

🧠 It acts as a second brain — tasks aren’t floating around in her head trying not to be forgotten.

📏 The physical size gives her a natural boundary. If there isn’t room, that’s a pretty good clue she’s trying to commit to too much.

🎯 It helps her visually prioritise what actually needs doing TODAY rather than being confronted by one enormous never-ending task list.

✨ She adds something she’s looking forward to that evening — a little visual reminder that her day contains more than work.

🧽 And at the end of the day?

She wipes it clean.

A tangible, cathartic “work is finished now.”

Before she does, she leaves a little hangover note for Future Her — where she got to, what’s still important and what she needs to pick up tomorrow.

So tomorrow’s brain doesn’t have to reconstruct yesterday’s brain from scratch. 😂

And when she told me about it?

She literally couldn’t stop smiling.

THIS is why I love being an ADHD & Workplace Strategy Coach.

Not because I have a secret cupboard full of magical ADHD hacks.

And I’m definitely not telling every ADHDer to go and buy a whiteboard now. 😂

It’s about getting curious.
What’s creating friction?
What does YOUR brain struggle to hold?What makes something easier to see, start, prioritise or stop?
What boundaries does your brain need externally because they’re difficult to hold internally?

Then we experiment until something clicks.

Sometimes that might be an app.

Sometimes it’s body doubling.

Sometimes it’s changing how you structure your day.

And sometimes…it’s a bloody whiteboard. 😂💛

And seeing somebody realise “OH. This actually works for me!”?

That’s the good stuff. 🥹

What’s one ridiculously simple thing that makes your brain’s life easier?

If I’m honest, I’ve had a real barrier around studying, learning and CPD over the last year or so, which is not like me!

Pain and fatigue haven’t helped. ADHD on its own can make learning hard sometimes, let alone when life is already taking up most of your capacity.

And I think I have to recognise that messy life action has had to be the priority. In 12 months, I’ve become poorly, I’ve sold my home, I’ve been restarting from scratch almost! 😅

But something I’m working on right now is accepting that messy action is better than waiting for perfection.

I don’t have to know everything before I start.
I can respond instead of trying to predict and control everything.

If I get a question wrong, what matters is how I learn from it and move forward — not that I didn’t get it right first time.

It’s letting go of some of the control.
Some of the fear of getting it wrong.
And slowly learning to trust myself to handle what happens next.

That bit isn’t easy. But I’m doing it.

So, Marvel on in the background and some slow studying today. 📚

One little step closer to a fab new qualification.

Messy action. One step at a time. 💛Anyone else relate?

I thought I needed to get more organised.

Turns out, my ADHD brain might actually need less stuff to organise.

So I’ve been decluttering.

Not in a “throw everything away and create an aesthetically pleasing beige capsule wardrobe” way. 😂 Absolutely not.

I like clothes. I like colour. I like choices. I am, quite frankly, a thrifty queen. love you!

But I’ve started noticing how much stuff creates tiny decisions.

The trousers that don’t fit.
The top I like in theory but never wear.
The fabric my sensory system HATES.
Old items that have bad memories…
The “maybe one day…” clothes.

All of it takes up physical space AND brain space.

So I’m trying something different:

Not minimalism. Not perfection. Intention.

Does it fit my body NOW?
Do I actually enjoy wearing it?
Does it feel good? Does it have a good memory associated with it?
Would I choose it if everything was clean?
Do I use it?!

If not… hello Vinted. 👋😂

And rather excitingly, being 22lbs down means there’s quite a bit that no longer fits! 🥹

Instead of keeping things “just because”, I can sell them and turn that money into something I actually value — savings for my next home, something important, a treat for Sooty or replacing something I genuinely need.

I’m being more intentional about what comes back IN too.

Because I don’t want my next home filled with stuff.

I want it filled with the good stuff.

Things I use. Things I love. Things that make life easier. Things that feel like me.

Supporting my ADHD doesn’t always mean another planner, storage system or organisational hack. (Yep.. I’ve even gotten rid of some of those fancy notebooks!)

Sometimes my brain simply needs less to manage making decisions so much easier!💛

I voluntarily watched The Great ADHD Myth?… and it was every bit as frustrating as I feared. 😬

Were there some valid discussion points buried amongst it? Yes.

Diet, movement, sleep, screen time, creativity and our environments can influence how we feel and function. But acknowledging that doesn’t threaten the validity of ADHD.

What frustrated me was the overwhelmingly one-sided narrative those points seemed to support.

Asking “could we support ADHDers differently?” is a valuable conversation.

Using that to question whether ADHD is neurodevelopmental — without equally exploring the evidence, professionals and lived experiences on the other side — is very different.

Where were the adults? Late-diagnosed ADHDers? Women and girls? Inattentive and combined presentations? Masking?

Where were the people saying:
“Medication changed my life.” Because hi. 👋 I’m one of them.

Understanding my ADHD didn’t give me an excuse. It gave me context.

And if ADHDers struggle within school or work, shouldn’t we also be questioning the environments we expect them to function within?

Watching a child ultimately need medication again partly to access the education and opportunities he deserves left me incredibly conflicted!

I’ve also since seen professionals featured in the programme publicly raise concerns about how their contributions were represented in the final edit.

That leaves me questioning whether this was genuinely about exploring a complex issue — or whether controversy was part of the point.

ADHD already carries stigma. People are working bloody hard to understand themselves, access support, advocate for their needs AND create cultural change.

I’m not angry because ADHD was questioned.

ADHD can be neurodevelopmental AND environment matters.

Medication can be life-changing AND other support matters.

ADHDers can take responsibility AND society can become more inclusive.

THAT’S the ADHD conversation I want us to have.

ADHD deserves better than stereotypes and either/or arguments. Represent the complexity of what you’re challenging. Because several things can be true at once.

And ADHDers deserve better than rage bait. �

Meanwhile, I’m over here surviving on caffeine, to-do lists and good intentions… while Her Royal Highness has perfected the art of professional napping. 😂🐾

Honestly, I aspire to have the confidence of a dachshund who contributes absolutely nothing to the household but still expects five-star service.

Tell me… who else has a pet living a better life than they are? 🤣💛

A week of chronic pain, fatigue and being stuck in bed…

…calls for the ultimate comfort show rewatch. ❤️🍁☕️

No matter how many times I watch it, Season 1 of Gilmore Girls still feels like a warm hug.

Sometimes healing looks like resting, hot drinks (ok Coke Zero) and Stars Hollow.

This week hasn’t been about productivity.

It’s been about surviving chronic pain, fatigue and waiting for answers. Plus ADHD has been on top form with RSD, brain fog and the rest!

So tonight I’m choosing comfort over guilt.

Gilmore Girls.
A cosy blanket.
An Ice Cold drink.
And hoping tomorrow is a little kinder and pain free. ❤️🍁☕️

💛 What’s your ultimate comfort show?