Marilu Gabba Intimacy Practice

It's been three months of being swallowed whole by the whale that is a toddler and twins.

Three months of feeling every emotion possible, from the beautiful to the really ugly, and feeling it all in one day.

Three months of repeatedly hitting a wall where I felt like I can't possibly continue, and then taking a deep breath and finding a new pocket of f***s to give.

It's been bliss and battles, high fives and low energy, feeling invincible and being defeated.

I didn't have fun on Mother's Day. We tried to get out for a picnic, but my toddler kept running away and my babies kept crying.

But, I got some pictures from the last month or two. This is me being very mother.

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Hey there 😉

I think I was about 12 weeks pregnant when this pic was taken. Even though one of the things I do is work with women around self-love, I was feeling gross and bloated, my self-love cup was full of weird new hormones. And so, the universe sent me another woman to hold me through this and make me feel gorgeous again with this shoot. these images are still my favourite moments frozen in time.

Because moments on the gram are fleeting - hello, I'm Marilu.

I'm a certified love, səx and relationship coach, a first-time mom who breastfeeds and bedshares and worry about sending my son into a bizarre new world of AI and technology and emotional instability.

I'm married to the most wonderful man I waited a whole 35 years for (I honestly believed for a long time I was going to be single forever) and birthed said son on my bed at age 40. I guess I fall into the "late bloomer" category.

I find a well-regulated nervous system super sexy and my career dream is to have more super long-term clients (sending you love ) - walking a path with someone as a coach is the most amazing, satisfying thing in the world.

I love forests, Always Sunny in Philadelphia (except the last season), piping hot baths, any and all form of touch (specifically from my loverrr), coffee, esoteric things when other people do them for me, voicenotes that are long enough to be podcasts, community, my baby, Japan, unexpectedly spotting the moon, receiving packages and having a purring cat on my lap.

I don't like sleeping with socks on, finding snails in my garden, specific content oversaturation due to the algorithms, yelling, power outages, cold food on cold days, other peoples' perfume that hangs around forever, wearing bras and fuzzy fruit skins.

I also haven't had a full night's sleep in over 9 months.

The one thing you can (and really should) buy from me at the moment is a DIY sensual massage course. This practice has been such a beautiful addition in my own relationship - enough that I went ahead and created a whole course around it. Find a reason to get it, gift it, or study it.

Trust me on this one 😉

So, you're sitting down in front of your man's pillar of light - but tonight feels spiritual and sexy.
Ta**ra playlist in the background. Essential oil candles flickering in the corners of the darkened room.
Coconut oil all heated up and ready to be poured onto his pillar.

This is when the WANG becomes a LINGAM.

When you wanna get all goddessy in your intimacy, "lingam" is a great word to have in your vocabulary.

But (as we tend to do) we've kinda oversimplified this word in the West. It has deeper roots and a much deeper meaning - but for the purposes of this 2 second scroll post, we'll stick to the meaning that is a more reverent way of calling in the D.

So, next time your man gets swingy with his thingy, you can say: "My love, I adore your lingy!"





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Not quite ready to join the Mama Gena reclamation or grab the pink beanie club?

I have another word for you. One that lands a bit more gently.

Yoni is a LOVELY word. In fact, recently I find myself using it more frequently when talking about the P&P massage I teach - where I'm at currently it's become "Yoni & Lingham Massage" (possibly because my nervous system has been shredded since having a baby. I need soft, feathery, cuddly things)

It's also an ancient word, and one that garners respect. A sense of holiness. Reverence. Worship.

A word, a concept that has been around way longer than your yoni has.

Is it part of your vocabulary?




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“When we are hurt in love, our emotional pain has a special power to resurrect old, hidden issues, and force us to confront them head on.” - Sue Johnson (Hold me Tight)

Relationship science shows that our earliest relationships with parents or caregivers form templates for our future relationships. You’ve all heard of daddy issues. But, when we are in a healthy romantic relationship, we have the opportunity to challenge these templates and heal old wounds.

To go to these places, a fair amount of vulnerability is required - and this is hard for most humans. Entering a space of Intimacy coaching for Couples with me gives you a dedicated time & space with guidance so that you and your boo can connect more deeply, and through that deeper connection have more intimacy.

It takes a commitment from yourself as a couple to invest in yourself as a couple.

And the dividends will pay out for years to come.

Questions? I’m always available in the DMs

Have you & your boo been looking for a way to deepen your connection and explore your sensuality?

I've got the answer for you!

Ta***ic massage.

It can re-ignite the spark between you and your partner, but it also creates a space where you can fully see and be seen by each other. And yes, that might feel intimidating but, I'm goign to make it easy for you. Gentle gentle. Then, as you learn to welcome all emotions and identify your desires (and speak those desires - out loud), you'll find that your relationship grows stronger and more fulfilling.

Ta***ic massage is more than just a physical fool-around - it's a place where sensuality and spirituality meet. By practicing mindfulness and presence, you might even open some doors to release old wounds, trauma, and blocks. Regular practice can also help you become a better listener, as you learn to communicate your desires and actively listen to your partner's needs. It did for me & my clients. And I know it can do the same for you.

So why not make your next date night a yummy one with ta***ic massage?
You've watched all the good series in any case - time for something new 😉






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Most of the couples I work with are best friends, co-habitants and often times co-parentig.

In other words - they spend a lot of time together and they kinda know each other as well as they know themselves.

Not much tension in the predictable, is there?

If you want to bring back that tension in your physical relationship, you want ot create polarity. Like a battery - two opposite poles that draw towards each other and create electricity (okay I'm not sure if this is how a battery works, high school science was a long time ago but you get the idea)

Something that often happens as we fall into a habital routine of how we show up in the bedroom is that there are perceived expectations of giving and receiving in the moment. And that can get you caught up in your head (Have I been on the receiving end for too long? He's probably expecting I now give to him...)

Imagine rather CREATING a space where you can take turns to FULLY give and FULLY receive.

FULLY giving means making sensual touch a meditation. A practice of presence.
Like you're doing it for the first time.

FULLY receiving means never feeling like you have to stop what you're doing to return the favour. It means laying back and feeling what it feels like to be worshipped like a King/Queen.

If you haven't experienced this before, you're totes missing out.

Not sure how? Awkward around how to initiate this?

I've got you. Partner Pleasure is a paint-by-numbers guide to bring electric touch back into your relationship. Find more details in my main profile ❤️