28/05/2026
A client and I were talking recently about overthinking and decision-making.
At one point I said: “It’s almost like you’re standing at the window trying to predict the weather instead of opening the window and finding out what it’s actually like.”
I think a lot of us do this in midlife.
We mentally rehearse every possible outcome before making a move:
career changes,
relationships,
moving house,
starting something new,
leaving something behind.
We want certainty before action. But in reality, certainty only arrives after action.
Real life gives us information that overthinking never can. 🤯
Sometimes it’s as simple as opening the window. So what would happen if you did open it? 👀
The next step can’t always be: ‘Figure out your whole future.’ 😵💫
If you’re stuck in overthinking, second-guessing or trying to think your way into certainty, coaching can help create movement.
19/05/2026
We are delighted to have been awarded a £10,000 grant from The Pixel Fund towards our work supporting young people with suicidal thoughts, taking the total they have contributed to us over the years to £28,000.
Last year, a quarter of the people who came to appointments with us were aged between 18 and 25, and NHS mental health referrals for young people have surged in the past few years.
This latest grant will directly cover the cost of ongoing appointments for 40 young people over the coming year, ensuring that they have a safe, compassionate and confidential space to explore their suicidal feelings.
The Pixel Fund has been one of our longest standing supporters and we're so grateful for their ongoing belief in our work 💜
18/05/2026
There’s a point in life where the questions start changing.
Stop asking “What should I achieve next?”
Answer this instead:
“Who am I now?”
“Now what should I do?”
“Am I stagnant or just exhausted?”
“Have I outgrown this?”
“Why does my life look okay on paper but not feel right anymore?”
These are the kinds of questions that often show up in midlife. Not necessarily because life has come to a standstill, but because you are changing.
And to answer them properly, you need a moment to stop and actually think. 👉🏽 To notice what has shifted. 👉🏽 What no longer fits. 👉🏽 What feels a bit too humdrum. 👉🏽 And whether the life you have still gives you enough of what you need now.
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Sometimes one honest question is enough to start changing the direction of things.
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That’s often where coaching can help: creating the space to untangle what’s going on 👉🏽 help you understand what you actually need now 👉🏽 work out what comes next 👉🏽 and recognise what you may need to let go of because it’s slowing you down.
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Hi, I’m Vivienne, a midlife and career coach helping people think clearly, rebuild confidence and work out what comes next.
11/05/2026
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At some point in midlife, a lot of people realise they’ve spent years being who they needed to be.
But one day, they admit that something no longer fits > their work > their priorities > their relationships.
Or even the version of themselves they’ve been carrying around for years.
And that’s usually the point people find me.
They know they can’t keep ignoring the feeling that something needs attention.
Most of my clients arrive with tangled thoughts, too many options, no direction that feels quite right, or a sense that they’ve lost themselves a bit along the way.
The work we do together is about untangling those thoughts, understanding what’s really going on, and working out what comes next.
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If this post resonated with you, book a discovery chat and we can talk things through properly.
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I look forward to hearing from you.
20/04/2026
Their comment made me smile but it also sums up how I tend to work.
This is someone who’s come back to work with me again. Not because nothing changed the first time (I hasten to add) but because it did.
When clients return, we’re not starting from scratch. There’s history there, in a good way!. They don’t have to explain themselves all over again.
And there’s already a trust that's been built.
They’d already done some of the thinking, made shifts, got themselves into a better place and built some momentum. Now they want to build on that with someone who already knows them. We can pick things up mid-thought and get straight into it.
Which means we get to the nitty gritty much faster and sessions adapt depending on what’s going on.
The gist is this: you don’t have to figure everything out alone.
And if you’ve done some of this work already, we can build on it, together.
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Hello, I’m Vivienne, a midlife and career coach.
If you’ve already started figuring things out but feel a bit stuck on what to do next, let’s get it moving - whether we’ve worked together before or not.
You know the drill by now... the 🔗 is in my bio. ☝🏼
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