Ruth Lane Confidence Coach

I'm not a fast runner and I'm 100% okay with that. Recently however, I've started running with some fabulous people on my estate. People I'd never even spoken to before!

Some (most to be fair) of them are super speedy and whilst they are a fab bunch of people, I have been very conscious I hold some of them back when it comes to running pace.

Today, I was even more concerned because it was a smaller group and I was definitely the slowest.

But... off I trotted at 5am for a 10k.

We laughed.
We got wet.
We ran through puddles unintentionally.

But most of all... we ran together. As a group of people with something in common... we just enjoy running... even at 5am when everyone is sleeping!

And guess what... I ran my fastest 10k of 2026!
I didn't finish it feeling like I wanted to die.
I finished it with alot more energy and I knew I could have carried on.

It made me question my self belief in my ability at running.

Have I been holding myself back all this time?

Who knows...I will have to test it 🤪

But one thing it absolutely reiterated for me - when you surround yourself with the right people who support you with no competition... you can go further than you give yourself credit for!

Your circle matters!

Don't underestimate that!

Make sure you are surrounded by cheerleaders and those who don't see you as competition but as a human worthy of more 💪

When we look at prices for our products and services, we panic. We feel judged. We feel like everyone disapproves.

But, in reality, we are just putting our worries onto everyone else.

Fact is... People will pay your prices and.. People wont pay your prices.

I've just paid £3.30 for a cup of tea. I do love a cup of tea and as I've been up since 5am and driven down to Essex, it's needed!

And that's the beauty of pricing.... if people want and need your product, they will pay exactly what you want to charge. Not what you think others will be comfortable with but what you truly believe it's worth.

Taking into account everything - the behind the scenes that noone sees aswell as the awesome product or service you have to offer.

People pay over £100pm for a gym membership when they could pay £25pm somewhere else.

People pay £300 for a handbag when they could get a bag for £50 somewhere else.

People pay £150k on a car when they could get a car for £20k somewhere else.

What you get from each of these price brackets are very different.

So the next time someone compares what you offer to another place offering a similar thing - just remember... you offer something completely different and amazing and it's okay if people don't see the value in that because the people that will... are out there and they will buy from you 💪

I get asked alot if I'm looking forward to finishing as a Nail tech...

Obviously a part of me is otherwise I'd probably be making the wrong decision...

But...

That doesn't mean I'm not really sad about it too 😔

Being a nail tech isn't just about doing nails, it's about building trust, talking and opening up. I've got to know my amazing 'nail ladies' (as George calls them) and their families.

The wonderful women come into my home.
They meet my family - some unintentionally 🐶🐈‍⬛
They welcome me into their lives.

We laugh together
We cry together
We moan together
We talk together

They've comforted me through losing Juno and when things were extremely tough with George and through other personal things.

I'm not just saying goodbye to a business.
I'm saying goodbye to some beautiful relationships that I am so lucky to have had.

Some will continue and some won't.

But each and everyone has, and still is, an absolute joy ❤️

So yes, I'm excited to concentrate on my coaching but I'm also really sad 😔

I am very conscious that I have been super quiet on here but I have just been super busy... if I've not been momming I've been nail teching or coaching or being coached or studying or gymming or networking or running or maybe sleeping...

It's been a full on 6 weeks and George has been my priority.

But, back to school tomorrow and I will be back to it and I can't wait.

Please give me a 👍or a ❤ if you are still here with me 🙏🏽

Confidence, self confidence, self esteem... can all seem quite scary at times but...

It really can be as simple as being comfortable with saying 'no, I dont want to' or 'no, I don't like it'

Too many people go along with things for fear of looking silly or being left out or being different to others.

But, it really is okay to have your own opinions and stand by them.

You don't need to appease everyone else at the expense of your own happiness.

Stand firm in yourself.
Be true to yourself.
Trust you know yourself better than anyone else.

And remember... 'No' is not a word to be feared.

So the next time you know the answer should be no but you go to say yes... stop, take a breath and just be honest, kind to yourself and answer truthfully... knowing that it's okay 🥰

Well, we are coming to the end of week 5 of the summer holidays.

I feel like I've barely spoken to anyone outside of work and George 🤣

Work has truly taken a back seat whilst I've been creating some amazing memories during the holidays!

I won't lie, there are times I get a little anxious because I'm fully aware that I'm being super quiet but then I take a step back, remember I'm a human and can only do so much!

It's tough.
It's hard work juggling everything.

But... its worth it! I wouldn't change it.

I was speaking to my coach earlier and I told her how my military precision planning of the 6 weeks has enabled me to not stress about who is going where every.single.day!!!

Not every day has gone to plan but that's been okay. Because that's life, right?!

Kids or not kids...how does business go for you over the summer holidays? Because, I'm sure for alot it can impact sales and/or enquiries in a good or bad way?

I took delivery of my books for my next module last week!

Still a few more weeks of the current module to go yet though but I am loving it!

Interestingly, this week is about environmental psychology and there was a section on the positive effects of being outside in green space/nature has on our mental health.

It's something I tell my clients to do - get outside, be at one with nature 🌳🍁🍀

So... how often do you get outside in nature? Genuinely?

I've spent alot of my own life feeling like I wasn't good enough and wondering whether I was doing things right.

So when I say I want to help people feel more confident, I don't mean I want to turn you into some fearless, endlessly positive version of yourself.

I want to help you trust yourself again.

To stop shrinking yourself to fit what you think other people expect.

To have the confidence to do the things you want to do, even when you're scared.

And, ultimately, to become more YOU, not somebody else.

That's what my coaching is about.

And this is me giving a thumbs up after I finally conquered this small, but steep, incline that I usually have to walk up.

It just shows that confidence doesn't need to be huge and grand. Sometimes, it's just about having enough belief in yourself to keep going and do something you never thought you could ❤️

I realised recently that I haven’t actually talked about my coaching for a while.

Which is probably something I should rectify… considering I’m a coach! 😂

So, a little reminder of what I do…

I help people who know they’re capable of more, but somewhere along the way, their confidence has stopped matching their ambition.

Maybe you’re starting a business and constantly questioning yourself.

Maybe you’ve got big ideas but keep putting them off because you don’t feel confident enough to take the next step.

Maybe you’re successful on the outside, but inside you’re still second-guessing yourself, worrying about what people think or wondering whether you’re actually good enough.

Or maybe you simply don’t feel like you anymore.

That’s where my coaching comes in.

I’m not here to tell you to “just be more confident”.

We work on understanding what is holding you back, challenging the thoughts and beliefs that keep you stuck, and helping you rebuild trust in yourself so you can start showing up as the person you know you can be.

And you don’t have to have everything figured out before you come to me.

Sometimes you just need somewhere to start.

I’m also currently planning my next group coaching programme, which I’m really excited about.

It will be a supportive space for people who want to work on their confidence alongside others who are figuring things out too.

I’m putting together a waiting list now, so if that sounds like something you might be interested in, just send me a message and I’ll add you to the list. There’s no commitment — you’ll simply be the first to hear when I have all the details.

And if you’re interested in 1:1 coaching, you can message me about that too.

You don’t need to know exactly what you need.

You don't need to have the right words.

Just start with a conversation ❤️

I'm based on Hawksyard Estate but all sessions are over Zoom.

Message me on here or email me at [email protected]

Yesterday, I asked how many of you struggle to take time out without feeling guilty.

The response was unsurprising to be honest with too many 👍

However, it tells me one thing...

So many of us have forgotten how to rest.


For many of us, this doesn't come from nowhere.

We grew up watching adults constantly busy.

They worked hard.
They looked after everyone else.
They were always doing something.

Without anyone ever meaning to, we learned that resting meant we were being lazy.


But something for you to do this evening or tomorrow….

Think about someone you know who takes their lunch break every day.

Or goes for a walk.

Or finishes work at 5pm and doesn't answer emails until they start work the next day.

What do you think of them?


Do you think they're lazy?

Or do you think they're healthy...
balanced...
present with their family...

I once asked Michael if he minded me taking some time out.

He looked at me as though I'd asked the strangest question.

Looking back... I think he was right to.

Because somewhere along the way I'd convinced myself that resting was wasting time.


These days I know that taking time out isn't selfish.

It's one of the best things I can do for my mental health, my family and the people around me.

Maybe today is the day you stop waiting for permission.

And give it to yourself 🙏🏽