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Perfectionistic Procrastination common Inattentive ADHD experience

I'm rewriting this post for the fifth time. Same paragraph, over and over, and I still haven't pressed send.

That's my perfectionist mind at work. It happened with the last chapter of my book, it happens with a client email, it's happening right now with this post about perfectionism, which feels almost funny if it wasn't so exhausting.

My mind holds so many threads at once that I end up trying to cover every one of them, just in case, and somewhere in all that overexplaining the actual point gets buried. Underneath it there's always the same fear, that if I leave one thread loose, someone will find it and use it against me. So I keep polishing, bracing for the person who's waiting to pick it apart.

What actually changed for me was realizing I was writing for the critic the whole time. Once I started picturing the person who needed the one clear thing I had to say, instead of the person hunting for what I got wrong, I was able to press the button and let it go.

I call this perfectionistic procrastination, it's one of the patterns in the procrastination matrix I developed in my books. With an inattentive ADHD mind, it shows up as two things at once, the hyperactive rush of always feeling behind, and the quiet pull to keep perfecting something forever. Feedback still isn't easy, but it's become something I'm curious about rather than afraid of, because it tells me what people actually need, not what I imagine they'll judge.

How does perfectionism show up for you?

If you live with inattentive ADHD, your mind probably has five chains of thought at once, and it feels like that do you know how to clear it?
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I am delighted to share that my article, “The Principles of Neuro-informed Transactional Analysis”, has been published in The Script magazine this morning.

The article begins from a simple but important observation: neurodiversity is already present in our consulting rooms, training groups, coaching practices and organisations. We are working with it, whether or not we name it.

Transactional Analysis has inherited a strong trauma-informed lens, and this has given us deep compassion, relational understanding and a coherent way of thinking about human struggle. But I have begun to wonder whether this lens is always sufficient.

In the article, I explore what it might mean to develop a neuro-informed TA lens, one that can sit alongside trauma-informed thinking and help us recognise sensory, attentional, executive functioning and nervous system differences as central parts of the work.

This is a developing area of thought, and I am very glad to be opening the conversation.

Thank you to the Script editorial team for their support and hard work in publishing the article.

https://platform.itaaworld.com/news/neuro-informed-ta-a-new-framework-for-neurodivergent-clients

Yesterday wasn't just Father's Day. It was also the Summer Solstice, the longest day of the year.
We have a lovely tradition of marking this day with a small bonfire and celebrating the light.
As the sun lingered in the sky, I stopped for a moment and looked back on the last six months. I reflected on the achievements, the challenges, the friendships and collegial relationships that have enriched my life, and the family. Connections that matter most.
It was a chance to pause, take a look, and reconnect with my deeper purpose. To remember what truly matters, what gives meaning to my work, and what I hope to bring into the world in the months ahead.
Sometimes the longest day offers exactly what we need: a moment of light, perspective, gratitude, and renewed direction

Is it Trauma or ADHD? Most coaches, psychotherapists, and counsellors are confused about.