Intuitive Peace Coaching with Lynette

𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗰𝗿𝗮𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝘀𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿𝗴𝘆. 𝗜𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝗯𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗼𝘂𝘁.

Because avoiding a task still takes energy.

Every hour you spend circling a task, you’re still working mentally.

You’re negotiating with yourself, debating when to start, researching more, doing easier things instead, then wrestling with guilt and shame.

The task stays open in your mind, so the energy drain stays open too.

Then the last-minute scramble starts: late nights, stress, rushing, sometimes sacrificing sleep just to finish.

All of that takes energy.

And by the time the task is finally done, completion no longer feels satisfying. Instead of accomplishment, it only brings you a sigh of relief that it’s over.

𝗦𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝗯𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗼𝗻𝗹𝘆 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗺𝘂𝗰𝗵 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝘆𝗼𝘂’𝘃𝗲 𝗱𝗼𝗻𝗲. 𝗜𝘁’𝘀 𝗮𝗹𝘀𝗼 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂’𝘃𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗿𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲𝗻’𝘁 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗲𝗱.

I’m curious. What drained you more this week: the work you did or the work you kept avoiding?

A reminder for today.

“T𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗿𝗲𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘀𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘄 𝗯𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗳𝗿𝘂𝗶𝘁.” — Molière

Moving slowly can still be intentional.

Steady can still mean progress.

Sustainability is not the opposite of ambition.

Sometimes the pace that gets you there without draining you is the better pace.

W𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝗱𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗸 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗳𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗯𝗲𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗱?

𝗜𝘁’𝘀 𝗪𝗜𝗡𝗦 𝗪𝗘𝗗𝗡𝗘𝗦𝗗𝗔𝗬! 🎉

Before you move on to everything that still needs your attention, pause and notice what 𝘥𝘪𝘥 move forward this week.

Maybe an email you sent. More clarification towards a project. Decisions that were put off before.

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗱𝗶𝘁 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗸 𝘀𝗼 𝗳𝗮𝗿?

Drop it in the comments. Let’s celebrate it together. 🎉

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗴𝗼𝗮𝗹 𝗶𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗻𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝘀𝘁𝘂𝗰𝗸 𝗮𝗴𝗮𝗶𝗻.

There will still be hard tasks.

Busy weeks.

Days when your energy is lower than you expected.

The difference is learning how to notice when you’re getting stuck 𝗯𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗱𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗶𝗰𝘂𝗹𝘁 𝗺𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗻𝘀 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗮𝘃𝗼𝗶𝗱𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲, 𝗽𝗮𝗻𝗶𝗰, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗰𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗶𝘀𝗺.

You may not need to become a completely different person.

You just need a different way to respond when the pattern starts.

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗶𝗳 𝗴𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝘁𝘂𝗰𝗸 𝗱𝗶𝗱𝗻’𝘁 𝗮𝘂𝘁𝗼𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻 𝗹𝗼𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗱𝗮𝘆?

𝗜𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗸𝗲𝗲𝗽 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗴𝗴𝗹𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗼𝗹𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵, 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗺𝗮𝘆 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝗱𝘃𝗶𝗰𝗲.

You may need to understand 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗸𝗲𝗲𝗽𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗱𝗼𝗶𝗻𝗴.

Maybe you freeze.

Maybe you overthink.

Maybe you keep finding easier tasks to do instead.

𝗜𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘄𝗵𝘆 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗸𝗲𝗲𝗽 𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘂𝗽 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝗰𝘆𝗰𝗹𝗲, 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄?

Drop your question in the comments!

𝗦𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝘆 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗮 𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗰𝗵-𝘂𝗽 𝗱𝗮𝘆 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗶𝗱𝗻’𝘁 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗶𝘀𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗸.

It can be tempting to look at the unfinished tasks and think:

Maybe I should just get a few things done so I can finally relax.

But somehow, “a few things” can turn into spending half the day mentally back at work, sometimes without actually getting much done.

If something truly needs your attention today, do what makes sense.

But if it can wait, let it wait.

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗼𝗱𝗮𝘆 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗮 𝗦𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝘆 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂?

𝗕𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗺𝗯𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗱 𝗼𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲.

You can care deeply about your work and still take a real break.

You can want more for yourself without turning every unfinished task into evidence that you’re falling behind.

And you can hold yourself accountable without spending the weekend criticizing everything you wish you had done differently.

𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗮 𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘁𝗹𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗿𝗼𝗼𝗺 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗸𝗲𝗻𝗱?

𝗤𝘂𝗶𝗰𝗸 𝗙𝗿𝗶𝗱𝗮𝘆 𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗰𝗸-𝗶𝗻:
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗱𝗶𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗸 𝗶𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗱 𝗼𝗳 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗸𝗻𝗲𝘄 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼?

A. Checked email
B. Researched a little more
C. Reorganized the to-do list
D. Knocked out a bunch of smaller tasks
E. Scrolled for “just five minutes”
F. Something else entirely

No judgment. I’m curious to see if there is any pattern.

Because the things we do 𝗶𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗱 can give us useful clues about why we procrastinate and what we are avoiding.

Drop your answer below.

𝗝𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝘄𝗼 𝗳𝗿𝗲𝗲 𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝘄𝗼 𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝘂𝘀𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗽𝗮𝗰𝗶𝘁𝘆.

A calendar only tells you how much time is available.

It doesn’t tell you how mentally tired you are.

How many decisions you’ve already made.

How much energy the task requires.

Or how much pressure you’re carrying around it.

Planning around hours is a start. Planning around capacity is what actually helps you follow through.

Leave a ❤️ if this makes sense.

𝗜𝘁’𝘀 𝗪𝗜𝗡𝗦 𝗪𝗘𝗗𝗡𝗘𝗦𝗗𝗔𝗬! 🎉

What’s one thing you did this week that you haven’t given yourself enough credit for?

A meeting you showed up to when you wanted to cancel?

A messy draft you finally started instead of avoiding?

A quick decision you made before slipping into another round of overthinking?

𝗡𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘄𝗶𝗻 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀!