07/07/2022
We’ve all been hurt by someone. It could have been a major betrayal, or a series of smaller wrongdoings. Maybe we were cheated on by our lover, or gotten fired for something you feel wasn’t fair. Maybe you have a relative that makes constant small lies that add up to resentment against them.
It’s understandable to have anger as the first emotion to register when you see that person. Sometimes the mere sound of their name might make your blood boil. You think of what they’ve done, and how it made you feel. Maybe their actions turned your life upside down.
It’s easy to hold onto that anger. Some people even go from hatred to wanting to enact vengeance.
That is the kind of anger that is unhealthy. You need to release these grudges.
When being told to let go, it sounds as if you need to completely embrace that person back into your life and trust them completely. But to release a grudge is not pulling a 180. It’s just releasing the anger that surfaces whenever you think of them.
You can still recognize how you were hurt by whatever actions. You can still understand how whatever happened has changed your life. Try putting it in writing. Converting it into something tangible turns it into something external. This can give you visual closure when you do whatever you want with that writing. Some people burn it, others tear it up. Maybe storing it somewhere you never go. However you do it, it’ll be a cleansing ritual.
When you do let go, that doesn’t mean you condone what happened to you. It just means that you don’t let it weigh you down anymore.
At The Catharsis Society we have a variety of services designed for whatever you need. Perhaps you need guidance through letting go. We can try this along with other methods to break that chain tying you down
www.thecatharsissociety.com
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