We Mind

Self-Sabotage Isn't Real (Here's What's Actually Happening) If you've ever felt like you're sabotaging yourself, this one's for...

There’s a part of you that pulls back every time you try to lose weight.

You’re focused on your goal, but somehow you keep sidestepping it — overeating, reaching for “just one more” treat, skipping exercise, and then making excuses for what happened.
Or maybe you keep pushing yourself to eat less and exercise more, but everything feels forced. You’re constantly fighting yourself, and it’s exhausting.
What if the problem isn’t that you lack discipline?

What if the part of you that keeps sabotaging your weight-loss efforts is actually trying to protect you from something?
Instead of asking, “Why can’t I stick to my diet?”, what if you asked:
“What is this part of me trying to do for me?”
This is what we’ll explore in the Meet Your Loyal Soldier experience on Thursday 27 August @ 6.30 pm AWST.

It’s free, live and online, with no recording — you need to be in the room to experience it.

Workshop facilitator: Suzi Jenner, Coach, Counsellor & Hypnotherapist

See the first comment for the registration link.

You stand in the pantry with the kitchen lights off. You already know what's in your hand before you've decided to reach for it.
You've been told this is about willpower.

It’s not about willpower. You aren’t broken, and it isn't sabotage.

It's loyalty, pointed at the wrong thing.

Meet Your Loyal Soldier is a free live online session, Thursday 27 August, 7pm AWST. Come find out what it's actually been protecting.

Link in comments 👇

If you get pushback when you try to change, have you ever stopped to wonder what the part of you that pushes back is trying to do for you?

I am running a free live zoom workshop this Thursday evening where you can find the missing piece of the puzzle.
See comment.

There's a part of you that pulls back every time you try to change.

❌ Although you are fully focused on your goal you may find yourself quietly sidestepping it and then making excuses about what happened.
❌ Or perhaps you keep pushing through, but every action has to be forced, and it’s exhausting.

Instead of trying to overpower the part of you that resists, get curious about it.
❓What is it actually protecting? Not "why am I so undisciplined," but "what is this part trying to do for me?

✅This is what we explore in the Meet Your Loyal Soldier experience on 27 August. It’s free, it’s live and there will be no recording – you have to be in the room.

See first comment for registration link

Meet Your Loyal Soldier is a free workshop.

If you've been struggling and calling it "lack of willpower" for years, come find out what it's actually been protecting.

What actually happens at the workshop?
No teaching. No worksheets. No slides.
Just a story, some real questions, and a room of women willing to look at the part of themselves that keeps getting in the way. Not to fix it. To understand it.

One of you goes a little deeper with me, live, while the rest of us witness. Watching someone else meet their resistance teaches you almost as much as meeting your own.

We close together, with a guided relaxation.

That's it. Nothing to get right, nowhere to fall behind.

Wednesday 26 August, 7pm AWST. Free workshop. Link in comments 👇

New on the WeMind blog. A career can look stable and successful, but still feel as if it has stopped moving.

Our new article explains seven common signs of a career plateau and helps you consider what may be missing. It could be opportunities for promotion, meaningful challenges, recognition or a clearer sense of direction.

The article also includes a practical career audit, ideas for moving forward, a script for speaking with your manager and a 30-day career reset.

Feeling stuck does not always mean you need to leave your job. The first step is understanding what needs to change.

Read the article:
https://wemind.com.au/overcoming-career-plateau-strategies/

True story from this morning.

I'm supposed to be writing content. Instead I'm at the pantry. Nothing there I actually want.

Ten minutes later I'm at the fridge. Not hungry. Don't want the carrots, don't want the cheese either.

Black coffee, back to the desk.

I know this pattern. It's not about the food. It never is.

It's resistance, dressed up as hunger.

The real problem was the work I didn't want to sit with. Chasing that feeling into the kitchen doesn't fix it, it just delays it and quietly adds weight while it's at it.

If you've caught yourself at the fridge for the third time in an hour, not hungry, just looking, you already know exactly what I mean.

✅ Free live online session, 27 August, Meet Your Loyal Soldier. We work through this properly. Small group. Link in first comment.

Does it feel like a fight?
➡️ Between how you want to feel,
and how you actually feel.
➡️ Between what you want,
and what you do.

What’s happening?
RESISTANCE

🛑 If you avoid taking action, it’s resistance.
🛑 If you feel like you’ve come up against a wall, it’s resistance.

✅ Explore how to disarm resistance in this free live online Loyal Soldier workshop so you can move toward your goal with freedom and ease. 💚
Registration link in first comment.
Enjoying good health should not feel like a battle you can’t win.

Can you relate?
When you are fully focused on your goal but you either find yourself quietly sidestepping it and then making excuses to justify what happened, or you get a persistant resistance to implementing the plan and every action has to be forced. Either way, it feels like self- sabotage.

That word, sabotage, does a lot of damage. It makes the part of you that resists sound like an enemy inside your own skin. Something to defeat with more discipline, more restriction, more willpower through gritted teeth.

But what if it isn't sabotage at all? What if it's a part of you still guarding an “order” it was given a long time ago?

Old orders can say things like:
- Stay small
- Play it safe
- Don’t get hurt
- Protect yourself
- Don’t get your hopes up

Somewhere in the past those orders made sense. You had a negative experience and installed an order to prevent it happening again.

That's not an enemy fighting against you. The intention was good. Perhaps its job was to keep you safe, but now it’s holding you back.

Here's what changes when you see it that way. Instead of trying to overpower the part of you that resists, you get curious about it. What is it actually protecting? Not "why am I so undisciplined," but "what is this part trying to do for me?"

Almost always, underneath the resistance, you find something you'd never fight against. Safety. Self-respect. Not wanting to be hurt again. The order might be outdated, but the thing it's protecting usually isn't the problem.

Once you can see that, you can check those values against the vision you're aiming for.

There is a way to get your vision and your values aligned so that you can be safe, and still move forward.

This is the quiet, unglamorous work that sits underneath real lasting change.

It’s the work we do in the Meet Your Loyal Soldier experience on 27 August. It’s free, it’s live and there will be no recording.

See first comment for more info and registration link.